Why your children might not like your new ‘find’

It stands to reason that with the spate of divorce
the society now witnesses and the number of
unwanted pregnancies, single parenthood has
come to stay. The sad picture is that, unlike in
the old days when single parents were mostly
widows who couldn’t be considered young, a lot
of single parents today, male and female, are
young, intelligent and eager for new
relationships.

As a bachelor aptly puts it: ‘’There are plenty of
single women without children you can date, but
let’s deal with the facts: An equally large number
of single mothers are no longer with the fathers
of their children, and in many cases have never
been.
Does this mean they are supposed to stay home,
stop dating and never meet someone worthy of
them or their children? Of course not! So let’s all
wake up and smell the realities of the twenties!”

He continues: “I admit that not long ago, I would
date an attractive, intelligent and humorous
young lady, and the moment I found out she had
a child, my attitude would change. I would find
ways to end the relationship. The reason? Well,
there were plenty, and not all of them sincere.

My main argument was that I felt the father of a
woman’s baby always had a chance to get back
with the mother of the child. 1 figured there was
a bond and I didn’t want to take a chance on
getting close only to end up being dismissed
later on in the relationship.

“I once dated a young lady whose little boy
clearly knew that I wanted only one thing. At that
point, I was not interested in her child and had
no desire to play the father-figure role. Her son
acknowledged my selfishness and bluntly said:

‘Mummy, I don’t like him.’ She had no qualms
about showing me the door but I didn’t care -
plenty of fish in the sea!” Which reminds me of a
friend who met a man she considered caring
enough to bring home to her two daughters. The
man showed real interest in her kids - bringing
them presents, helping them with their
homework and occasionally taking them to the
club. My friend couldn’t beleive her good fortune
until she picked up the phone one evening to
help her lover dial a number.

“So where is your mum now?” The line was
obviously busy and her older daughter was
talking to one of her friends on the phone. “She
is with her bobo in her room,” her daughter
replied.
She would have put down the phone but for the
resentment in her daughter’s voice. ‘’The same
bobo she’s been seeing?” the friend asked.

“Yes,o! Me sha, I don’t like him. As soon as he
comes in, he pretends he likes us. He buys us
magazines and sweets to keep us quiet then
sneaks into mummy’s room. At times he doesn’t
leave until two in the morning or even later.

Only God knows what she sees in him. He is
yukky”. “Doesn’t he
have a wife at home?” asked my daughter’s
friend. “I don’t know.
He’s been here twice with his horrible little son.
He might be a
single dad who’s not married himself. That son of
his is a drip.
Yetch!”

My friend couldn’t believe what she was hearing.
“I have ended some relationships because of
these ungrateful children” she fumed! “I have
always tried to be careful with the type of men I
encourage. The last thing I wanted was for my
children to see me bringing men in and out of
the house. Can you then imagine the cheek of
that one bad-mouthing a man who’s bent over
backwards to please everybody?”

Single fathers too don’t have rosy tales to tell
when they attempt dating again but they have
discovered that relationships work better if they
date single mothers instead of girls who are
inexperienced in raising kids. “Oh they pretend
to like your kinds at first,” recalled Mark, an
auto-mechanic. “But wait until the kids start
throwing tantrums or messing up their designer
wears and their inexperienced side comes to the
fore. I have seen a few friends who hurriedly got
married again only to find themselves living in a
nightmare. The single girl who pretends to like
your kids becomes very selfish as soon as that
wedding band is on her finger, and she’s started
raising kids of her own.

One of such women even pleaded with her
husband to send the step-son she met in the
home away because he was a petty thief. The
husband refused of course, warning her of the
consequences if she didn’t get on with his son.

As the bachelor chap succinctly wraps it up: ‘The
more I converse with my friends on the issue of
dating single mothers, the more it appears we
have all grown to accept the challenge. We have
watched how our own mothers have handled
raising children and dating. We are watching our
sisters in their relationships while single-
parenting. We see the effects on their children,
and are now more willing to become that new
aspect in the dating game - a father figure. For
those men who have babies and are not with the
mother of their children, this is the reality.
Another man may be loving not only your lady
but also your child!”

You’re The One That I Love! (Humour}
An artist is highly delighted when a gorgeous
model agrees to pose for him in the nude. While
he’s mixing his oils, the artist glances at the
stunning girl draped seducively over the sofa.

Overcome with lust, he rushes across the room
and makes passionate love to her there and
then.

Afterwards, she asks coyly: “Do you make love to
all your subjects?” “No, you’re the first one,” he
replies. “None of the others has driven me crazy
with desire.” Feeling flattered, she
asks: “How many have you painted before me?”
“Just the two,” the artist says proudly. ‘A hat
stand and a bowl of fruit. “