DDear Tiwa: Show me a marriage without
challenges and I will show you a virgin in a
maternity ward (birthing center): Most marital
crises happen prime of the bliss. This is no
different from what our parents went through
and what we, the people that ventured into
marriage would go through or are experiencing,
these times of our lives. These wahalas come
with “the territory”. But what makes your
palava unique is the arena chosen to out this
perhaps usual roforofo fights: the social media.
Your celebrity status accelerated the speed of
the spread. Everyone on social media has an
opinion, even those that don’t know what and
how you feel. Don’t blame us, Tunji invited us.
And you privileged us gate pass to your faltered family.
Tiwa, after watching your Pulse television
interview, I felt your pulse and Teebliz
heartbeat from a distance. You both cried out
for help. You are hurting. Teebliz is also hurting.
He is a coke head. He is human. The
environment and nature of your business
influences entices and encourages such social
behaviors. He stole your money: greed… so
what. Sometimes, you take from the one you
love. He must have spent it on you and or the
family… am not giving excuses, but Nne, words
are like weapons, they wound you sometimes.
You publicly stated, while avoiding eye contact
with the Television camera that the marriage
was over. Tiwa, your pronouncement did not
match your body language. You are angry. You
still love him. What is missing? you and Tee are
too busy engaged in the limelight, washing your
designers’ linens in public. The cracks were
getting deeper, but you both did not
communicate to address your problems. Teebliz
loves you. You love him. Life can be short or
long. Love can be right or wrong.
Mama T, go after what you love. You are
stronger than pride. Go get your man and seek
help. Take a trip to a marriage counselor and
offer him drug rehab. You too need to go into
rehab. Forget everything. You both love each
other; hence, you reached out to us. Tiwa,
Teebliz is human. You are also human and
woman. Those encouraging you to drop him or
let him go are not your friends. They do not care
about you and your child. Go and get your
family back together. You both made mistakes.
It is time to seek help as a couple and a young
family. There is nothing out here but home
wreckers services at work. Talk!. Talk!!. Talk to
your husband. I felt your pains: you are still
trapped in love. I believe he feels the same
ways too.
You stated your mother always urged you to
work things out: I think you should listen to your
mother. Forget about the whispers, the
comments, and the silly Facebook babbles and
vitriolic nonsense from mostly losers, on social
media and Nkworbi joints. Teebliz’s outbursts
were an attempt to open up a dialogue with
you: although he chose the wrong platform. He
misdirected his plea to you to see his pains and
love for the family. Your heart is young. Your
love, still fresh, Tiwa, do not be deceived by
several advisers and negative vibes to support
you. These are from hangers-on that want to be
there for you. The truth is, they will never be
here. You do not need anyone’s advice to mend
your broken hearts and rescue your young
marriage from collapse. You need two hurting
hearts to meet, sit down as adults still in love,
communicate and resolve your differences. Let
your feelings show and go. Those advising both
of you now, don’t feel the loneliness and lonely
nights under the bedsheets, or mornings alone
on the couch remembering how love came by
and swept you off your beautiful skinny feet,
the memories of gracious and seductive
moments, the temptations to text him, or
checking the cell phone every ring or minute,
wishing secretly that he called or text..Or
sleeping alone at nights in the bed you both
shared some silly real and genuine moments of
love, unlimited: holding his favorite cloth or T-
shirt just to smell his body scents; the little
things both of you did in the beginnings that
made each fond of the other, the crazy
memories when you both thanked God for
making each the other’s selection, when you
gave affection to get each’s attention. You, my
dear, can work things out.
Don’t say it’s over. It’s not over. You still love
him. He still loves you. To hell with what people
will say. They have already stated their worst.
They will continue to say more as long as you're
alive and successful.
Don’t let that stop you from your love. Mama
Tee. Waka after your man. Save your marriage
and seek help collectively so that you will
amaze the world with a second chance at love. I
wish you best as you listen to your heart.
Regards to your lovely son. Be strong.
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